Tips for Writing Your Vows or Wedding Day Love Letters

Crafting Your Love Story

Here are a few tips for writing your wedding vows that I have curated so that you can shine a light on why your love story is your favorite. Writing your vows doesn’t have to be stressful. You might find it to be very therapeutic and rewarding. If you plan to use traditional wedding vows, you can use this exercise to write love letters to exchange on your wedding day.

But, where should you start? What should you write about?

Make a List

If the ideas are coming too slowly, start by jotting down everything that comes to mind. These do not need to be complete sentences. This would be a great time to refer to the descriptive words or language from the Wedding Personality Description post.

Write down ideas, memories, and what you love most about this person.

• Who is this person to you? ex: best friend, partner
• Where were you when you realized you were in love? 
• What about this person led you to promise forever? 
• When this person is not around, what do you miss? 

Make it Memorable

Pull out your collection of memories. If you don’t have a box of memories start gathering your journals, cards, love letters, photographs, and keepsakes into one place. Then, scroll through your digital world of text messages, emails, and social media feeds. Have a notebook and pen ready to take notes as you relive each memory. This would be a great time to use the visual timeline from The Power of Shoebox Moments post.

Reread the words you wrote about this person and write down those words that still ring true. One idea will lead to another and another, and the next thing you know, you will have filled a notebook with more than enough ideas for writing your wedding vows.

Make it Personal

Share a story. Include a favorite memory or personal story in your wedding vows. This would be a great time to use one of your favorite moments from the Storyboarding post. Sharing a memory with your guests will give them glimpses into your uniquely beautiful love story.

Make Promises

To Love and Cherish

• Use words like I vow, I promise, I pledge. Make promises to your partner and vow to stick to them.
• How will you show your love for each other — with romance, humor, or in ways that only the two of you understand
• You could reference your partner’s love language (words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, physical touch).
• If you are religious, you can incorporate vows that celebrate your faith. 

For Better, For Worse

How will your love help you through the changes life will bring? Reassure your partner that this is for better, for worse, in sickness and in health. 

From This Day Forward

What are you looking forward to sharing with your spouse? How will your love set the tone for the way you raise your family? Think about your goals, aspirations, and plans.

• Together we will __________
• With you __________

Till Death Do Us Part

Finish your vows with one last promise/vow.

Example:

• As long as we both shall live.
• Always and Forever
• To infinity and beyond

Make Your Wedding Vows Last

Turn your beautifully crafted wedding vows into something you will cherish always. As your stationery designer, I would be happy to help you commemorate this moment. Here are some options:

• Printed on a scroll
• Framed with your wedding invitation
• Words on canvas
• Calligraphy Love Letters
• Have your vows bound together in a book

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